Personal Update

wolf

Sadly I can not relate to this as far as your partner but with the depression I know how it feels to get out of it, only to feel like something is pulling you back in. I spent the last 5 and half years in depression. I kept holding on to my cracking mask trying to keep every one I know from finding out how much I was hurting. Self destruction depression sucks and I hate how long I let myself feels this way. I hope you do feel better and all I can say is you must fight back against the darkness don't let it pull you back into the abyss. Life will be hard at times but remember you are stronger then the darkness, don't let who you are fade into the night rise up and fight back make the darkness fight for every step as you push forward into the light. Corny I know but sometimes corny works ha ha.

James Roshal

I had something similar, my own partner spent 3 months In India, and like of like you I started to slip a bit into depression, how we went around dealing with the issue is making time once a week to hop into a video call or even an audio call and do something. Be it Watching the same movie at the same time or connect 4 or a ttrpg. So the take away from this find something you both enjoy that can be done remotely or independently and twist it so you and your partner can enjoy it together.

HeartofBarkness

Best wishes! I Hope you are feeling better soon!

Jay Wood

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There’s no solid thing to help cure your mood, tho I send as much good ju ju as possible in your direction! Tho I would suggest just trying a nice cooked dessert. It’s nothing that will cure you, but it’s not like their is anything wrong with you in the first place. Besides, a baked treat could make your day just a little sweeter, while your sweet is gone!

James Marquardt

I tryed to feather the Cooling trigger when I realized what was happening& broke the blowdriers' heating element

James Marquardt

Lastly. The bear is pretty durable. You can sleep on top of him; say.. and not burst his seams. I resettle on top of my WilliamTeadybear if I settoff the heartbeater& kinda say 'im sorry for leaving you Throbbing, haha'

James Marquardt

Ohh!! Don't hairdry him. Not even threw the stuff/unstuff hole. The hairdryer is hot enough to scorch both Stuffing& the bears' 'skin'.

James Marquardt

Electronic hearts HATE the washer. Be careful of it, cause I made that mistake. The dryer didn't dry out the innerds & it beat till the battery died. I was So sad I didn't see it coming. Also. The bears face could be left alone . But unstuff the head, still. Cause mildew~.

James Marquardt

Just burst the seam they used to stuff the bear along the mid-back. Unstuff the arms, legs, chest & head. Into the pillow liner. Zip it up. & Wash (skin& all) as you normally would your clothes. Maybe a little gentler..

James Marquardt

Washup took some Trial& error. If you dense stuff a Significant-Other Bear. Be sure you have a sewing kit& a seam splitter. A pillow liner. & 20 minutes to lovingly unstuff & restuff. Give your Significant-Other Bear a 'bath' through the laundry every month or2.

James Marquardt

I think it has to do with the 'Missing Him' that takesup alot of my waking energies.. being 'appeased' somewhat. If I need both arms. I put him in my shirt. Against my skin with his head sharing the neckhole with me. It's Handsfree& I get to pretend we're facing the ordeal Together.

James Marquardt

I sleep cuddling him to my chest @night. Or right next too me if I Really gotta focus. It might sound Rediculus too a 'Sane' person. But even when I'm using both hands (like; say, on my phone.). And I'm pressing him to my chest w/ a forearm. I exibit increased performance& Focus.

James Marquardt

The bear is densely stuffed w/ an elec. beating heart. As tall as I could find.. 18" I think. W/ a dog tag& fatigues. Though I cuddle w/ him naked all the time. With his fatigues& Cover hung up on adhesive hooks.

James Marquardt

His name is Will. We've been together 10 years. But our sparatic, brief reunions have been all- but nonexistent since late 2018. In desperation I went to Build-A-Bear Workshop and built a William teadybear.

James Marquardt

I Wish you Strength. And I Do have a suggestion. It helps with my separation from my US Marine.

Kael Tiger

Yeah, I can relate. I've been drinking coffee since childhood, so it has zero effect on me when it comes to not sleeping XD

Kael Tiger

Huh... that might actually explain then why I've been so drousy. Might be the vaccine side effect exasperated by depressive mood. Thanks for letting me know. <3

Baguette_wuff

I'll send my energy and love to you 💕

DanyWolFurry

Take your time, reschedule if you need to, I trust you’ll be strong ^w^ I trust you, I have faith in you! And again just take your time, because great things always take time. Much Love to you! ^w^

omndragon

Hey, take your time. No one expects you to be at 100 percent. Besides I always prefer for artist to take their time to enjoy what they do. Timelines aren't always beneficial to that. Do what you feel you can when you can.

Dkrewe

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You have my sympathy Kael. I tend to sleep a lot too, when my husband and I are separated. One of the worst feelings when you grew attached over the years. Like half of your energy went with him. Stay strong :) I hope you two manage to find alternatives for the next months.

Bashful Wolf

My husband and I began our journey together as a long distance relationship across different countries, so I understand exactly how much it sucks to deal with extended separations from your loved one. The good news is that the trip IS finite and has a definitive end that you can focus on. Like Vul reassuring the main character of your amazing tale, your Ranock WILL come home so stay strong. : ) Focus on your mental well being and I'm sure Tiernan will be there when you're ready to work on it just as your faithful patrons who will happily enjoy it when it's complete. Take care.

It's pretty hard to get out of a rutt like that; you just have to force yourself to do something or anything instead of sleeping in or napping (outside of maintaining a healthy sleep schedule because that is important!) If you ever feel like you want to nap, try to do something else. I did martial arts as a side hobby, and it turned out to be something that helped me whenever I was in a mood similar to yours. Sometimes I play chess or any other strategy games to keep my focus going. While I'm a huge coffee addict, that doesn't tend to help me stay up but sometimes help me stay focused. I wish you the best of luck!

Raigen Karasuga

Even though you've taken the vaccine your body will still be readjusting to the effects of the vaccine however minor they may seem. I slept a lot more after the vaccine so I picked up you might have that issue too XD. It's definitely not easy to be apart from your S/O so try to make plans to chat with each other every day and even video call as often as you can so it feels like he's there. Try not to dwell on the days too much otherwise it'll feel much longer than 3 months.

Some Person

You got this you can get through this your strong hope things work out💜💜💜

Zach

Mhmm! It's perfectly fine!

Randomgamer24

Have you tried facetiming or skyping with your partner? If that's something that you two can do then maybe it could remind your subconscious that they are coming back after not too long of a time. Sorry if this sounds rude or too direct, let me be clear I am NOT trying to disregard your mental health challenges nor am I telling you to simply "get over it". I have also had my share of emotional challenges in my life and I've found it to be extremely helpful to remind myself that this is only temporary and that it will change sooner or later. As for the VN, I would be lying if I said I hate the thought of it being postponed or delayed, but I think I speak for everyone in this community when I say that your happiness and mental health come way before this. We're here for you and you are not alone in this.

Adam Clark

My partner of 8 years and I have been long distance for almost 3 years, in different countries. He’s coming back on Saturday after 6 months of not seeing each other. It’s difficult, especially the first time you have to deal with it, but it can make your relationship stronger. I know I appreciate him more now because of that time we have apart. It’s really important that you talk to each other every day. My partner and I video call for 1-3 hours every day, and even when we’re too tired to talk we’ll at least have each other there by video. Another thing that’s important is that you spend time doing things you enjoy doing by yourself. This will be a good time to focus on yourself, maybe even taking time to try something new that you’ve been meaning to. Good luck—I’m positive you’ll be okay! ❤️

Libras250

My advice would be to try and break your routine. Take a day to go do something fun and exciting. Hike somewhere a few hours away you've never been to. Visit the beach. Order a meal you've never eaten before. Do something engaging and out of the ordinary. Your routine has already been disrupted by your partner leaving, but you've also been left in the same space as that routine, with nothing new to do. Right now, all you feel is loss; you can't live the life you were living anymore, but also can't start a new one. Basically, you're in mourning. And you're fortunate in that you will get your partner back eventually, even if the wait is long and painful. But I think you still have to do what everyone in mourning must do eventually. Learn how to keep moving. A new experience might help your brain realize that your life can continue while your partner's not around. And when they get back, you can share with them all the new things you tried. Best of luck to both of you. I hope your heart can heal soon. óuò

Taiga

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Sounds like you're doing as much as you can for your mental state, which is excellent. One piece of advice that I can give is to visit your doctor if you haven't already. They may be able to give you some help in treating your lethargy. It might not even be medicine, could be just about adjusting your lifestyle, but it would be orders of magnitude better advice than you can get from an average internet user. I get that it is frustrating to want to do something but not being able to. It might not be as simple as just pushing through it but, wishing you the best in any case.

GreenDerg99

Stay strong Kael! You will push trough this, I'm sure! Just don't let yourself become too passive, do your best everyday, and days will fly by. We will support you no matter what ❤️

I Dare Korval

Also eating good food (things you like but don't normally buy) can also help lift your spirits. But yes, activity out side of the home and getting some fresh air will help a lot too. My personal rule is I allow myself 3 days for a "personal pity party" and then force myself to get active with my life again.

We hope that everything turns out good for you. We all immensely appreciate your effort for your community. And the three months will fly by and he’ll be back in your arms. Please take care of yourself and remember, we love you!

Exercise often helps. Maybe taking a half hour to an hour walk may help. Just walking pulled be back from the abyss that was my mind so maybe it will help you.

Please take care, and stay strong! Please prioritize your own well being over us, I’m sure many of us would understand a delay if needed! ❤️ we’ll still be here cheering you on!

We all hope you will be fine . Take care man!✌. And try to listen some music because music can help people sometimes. Stay safe and healthy

Thiago Moraes

I hope you get through this as soon as possible! You deserve the world Kael! Three months will pass by flying and soon enough he’ll be back in your arms! And remember, we love you!

Try not to push yourself too much Kael!! Stay strong, but please remember to put your mental health first :_)

Stay strong friend, you and your work are amazing! I hope things get better, remember to take care of yourself and rest too!

David Terhune

We hope everything gets better for you! Much love! And please stay safe and healthy