Caitlin V
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"How do I actually know if I'm good in bed?"
🕑 Added 2025-07-16 15:10:42 +0000 UTCThis is the question I hear all the time from men.
And honestly?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer.
It’s not just about stamina or skill , it’s about presence, attention, and how your partner feels with you.
Still, it’s such a loaded word: good.
So let’s unpack it a little.
👉 What does “being good in bed” mean to you?
Like... if you had to define it for yourself , not what porn says, not what TikTok says - what would you say actually matters?
Comments
Russ
Honestly, it's not something I give much thought anymore. The wife and I have been together for 19 years. We had both been in some toxic relationships previously, so when we got together we agreed we would talk about anything openly and from a place of love and respect. So when she gives me rave reviews, I have to believe her.
Lovely Dutta
That's right! Well said.
Grouchy Vince
With my limited experience (and somewhat unusual circumstances), I'd say if she is more than willing to do it again....as I would almost literally be thumped on the head and told, "I want you again, you nut!" I attributed it to hope that I would "get better" beyond just raw passion. Well, we are all our own worst critics.
