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"Other People's Expectations"
Patreon Exclusive. In this special crossover episode of their new podcast, How to Love, co-hosts Rebecca Shern and Joshua Fields Millburn discuss reactivity, perceptions and expectations, understanding relationship preferences, compassion, negotiating relationships, and in-law sabotage, and they answer listener questions about relationships, sex, and parenting.Listen to every episode of How to Love at patreon.com/howtolove.
"Enough Is Enough"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss how to identify and address our constant craving for enough, and they answer the following questions:Why do we always crave more over less? (00:00)Why do we always feel like we don’t have enough? (05:40)How is fear a source of our craving for more? (11:37)Are we being conditioned from childhood to always want more; and, if so, how does a strong sense of self—that is, self-esteem, self-reflection, and self-confidence—help to combat that conditioning and inspire individuality? (14:09)What is self-u...
Video: "Enough Is Enough"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss how to identify and address our constant craving for enough, and they answer the following questions:Why do we always crave more over less? (00:00)Why do we always feel like we don’t have enough? (05:40)How is fear a source of our craving for more? (11:37)Are we being conditioned from childhood to always want more; and, if so, how does a strong sense of self—that is, self-esteem, self-reflection, and self-confidence—help to combat that conditioning and inspire individuality? (14:09)What is self-u...
"Let the Mystery Stay the Mystery"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss our constant striving for optimization with author Jamie Wheal, and they answer the following questions:How has our modern search for truth become so convoluted? (00:00)What are twice-born humans? (02:23)What is the “state of no mind”? (03:56)What are death practices? (06:15)What is the “God-shaped hole”? (13:33)Are hierarchies necessary? (14:25)What is hedonic engineering? (27:34)Why are top-down solutions so problematic? (31:45)Has civilization caused more problems than it’s solved? (34:17)...
Video: "Let the Mystery Stay the Mystery"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss our constant striving for optimization with author Jamie Wheal, and they answer the following questions:How has our modern search for truth become so convoluted? (00:00)What are twice-born humans? (02:23)What is the “state of no mind”? (03:56)What are death practices? (06:15)What is the “God-shaped hole”? (13:33)Are hierarchies necessary? (14:25)What is hedonic engineering? (27:34)Why are top-down solutions so problematic? (31:45)Has civilization caused more problems than it’s solved? (34:17)...
"The Best Worst Advice"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss why most advice is flawed advice, and they address the following questions and advice:What are you leaving behind in the wake of the pandemic? (00:00)Why are our solutions often worse than our problems? (11:26)What is some bad advice you’ve received? (13:13)How can we become more uniting and less dividing? (20:47)Shouldn’t we fully understand something before we take action? (57:16)What is the problem with ‘fake it ‘til you make it’? (59:03)Why do we often feel like frauds? (1:03:13)Any advic...
Video: "The Best Worst Advice"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss why most advice is flawed advice, and they address the following questions and advice:What are you leaving behind in the wake of the pandemic? (00:00)Why are our solutions often worse than our problems? (11:26)What is some bad advice you’ve received? (13:13)How can we become more uniting and less dividing? (20:47)Shouldn’t we fully understand something before we take action? (57:16)What is the problem with ‘fake it ‘til you make it’? (59:05)Why do we often feel like frauds? (1:03:06)Any advic...
"The Prison of Nostalgia"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss recognizing and overcoming our emotional attachments to our possessions, and they answer the following questions:What is “sentimentality”? (15:19)Why is nostalgia dangerous? (17:13)What are some creative ways to repurpose sentimental items for daily use rather than having them simply collect dust on a shelf? (22:40)What should I do if photographs simply don’t replace having the actual items for me? (25:42)What is the difference between a collection and a curation? (28:45)What should we do with aw...
Video: "The Prison of Nostalgia"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss recognizing and overcoming our emotional attachments to our possessions, and they answer the following questions:What is “sentimentality”? (15:19)Why is nostalgia dangerous? (17:13)What are some creative ways to repurpose sentimental items for daily use rather than having them simply collect dust on a shelf? (22:40)What should I do if photographs simply don’t replace having the actual items for me? (25:42)What is the difference between a collection and a curation? (28:45)What should we do with aw...
"Trauma Body"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss addressing the many challenges of mental health with holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera, and they answer the following questions:How does the ego affect our struggles with trauma? (06:58)What is the 90-Second Rule? (14:24)How do we appropriately address anger? (18:23)How do we appropriately set, maintain, and modify boundaries? (21:39)How do I break my habit of rumination? (31:09)Is rumination only bad? (34:54)What is the ‘state of no-mind’? (35:41)How do we best handle agitation? (37:28)How d...
Video: "Trauma Body"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss addressing the many challenges of mental health with holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera, and they answer the following questions:How does the ego affect our struggles with trauma? (06:58)What is the 90-Second Rule? (14:24)How do we appropriately address anger? (18:23)How do we appropriately set, maintain, and modify boundaries? (21:39)How do I break my habit of rumination? (31:09)Is rumination only bad? (34:54)What is the ‘state of no-mind’? (35:41)How do we best handle agitation? (37:28)How d...
"Most Emergencies Aren't"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss what constitutes an actual emergency and the essentials for those times, and they answer the following questions:What stations do you enjoy on Pandora? (05:27)What are the three types of emergencies? (09:48)How do I build a community of support? (24:23)What would you put in a ‘bug-out’ bag? (25:45)How do we shore up our lines of communication within our communities in preparation for emergencies? (39:27)Should one keep guns and ammunition in their home for self-protection? (42:23)How can we ensure ...
Video: "Most Emergencies Aren't"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss what constitutes an actual emergency and the essentials for those times, and they answer the following questions:What stations do you enjoy on Pandora? (05:27)What are the three types of emergencies? (09:49)How do I build a community of support? (24:24)What would you put in a ‘bug-out’ bag? (25:46)How do we shore up our lines of communication within our communities in preparation for emergencies? (39:28)Should one keep guns and ammunition in their home for self-protection? (42:24)How can we ensure ...
"Controversial Topics"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss the effectiveness of vaccines, masks, lockdowns, censorship, and authorities with author and environmental lawyer Robert F. Kennedy, Jr., and they answer the following questions:What is the Waterkeeper Alliance? (00:57)How are the chronic diseases of today related to our exposure to chemicals? (13:03)Why is broadcasting of pharmaceutical ads allowed in the United States? (15:31)Is it true that Robert sued Donald Trump? (19:02)What is the Croton System? (20:13)Why would Roger Ailes not let Robert on Fox...
Video: "Controversial Topics"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss the effectiveness of vaccines, masks, lockdowns, censorship, and authorities with author and environmental lawyer Robert F. Kennedy, Jr., and they answer the following questions:What is the Waterkeeper Alliance? (01:20)How are the chronic diseases of today related to our exposure to chemicals? (13:13)Why is broadcasting of pharmaceutical ads allowed in the United States? (15:45)Is it true that Robert sued Donald Trump? (19:18)What is the Croton System? (20:28)Why would Roger Ailes not let Robert on Fox...
"Synthetic Obstacles"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan talk about recognizing and managing what we perceive to be obligations and responsibilities, and they answer the following questions:What’s so attractive about success? (03:46)What is non-attachment? (10:00)Why are we addicted to busyness? (15:24)How do we get good at saying, ‘no’?How do we identify and address obligations? (19:01)Why do we seek out the news when it increases our stress? (23:45)What are the Hadza? (27:41)What is the difference between natural obstacles and synthetic obstacles? (30:28)Wha...
Video: "Synthetic Obstacles"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan talk about recognizing and managing what we perceive to be obligations and responsibilities, and they answer the following questions:What’s so attractive about success? (03:46)What is non-attachment? (10:00)Why are we addicted to busyness? (15:24)How do we get good at saying, ‘no’?How do we identify and address obligations? (19:01)Why do we seek out the news when it increases our stress? (23:45)What are the Hadza? (27:41)What is the difference between natural obstacles and synthetic obstacles? (30:28)Wha...
"Minimalism Is Not"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss identifying and addressing hoarding, and they answer the following questions:How do I address the hoarding of a parent when I’m still dependent on them and living with them? (01:25)How can I help my daughter see that everything she has is not a sentimental treasure? (18:31)How do we establish boundaries with a loved one who hoards? (25:34)At what point does collecting become hoarding? (30:56)What is the difference between collecting and curating? (34:21)How do we broach the subject with a loved one w...
Video: "Minimalism Is Not"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss identifying and addressing hoarding, and they answer the following questions:How do I address the hoarding of a parent when I’m still dependent on them and living with them? (01:25)How can I help my daughter see that everything she has is not a sentimental treasure? (18:31)How do we establish boundaries with a loved one who hoards? (25:34)At what point does collecting become hoarding? (30:56)What is the difference between collecting and curating? (34:21)How do we broach the subject with a loved one w...
"Communal Living"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss the multitude of positives and negatives associated with communal living with the CEO and cofounder of Nourish Balance Thrive, Christopher Kelly, and they answer the following questions:What is the difference between a religion and a cult? (01:08)At what point might a commune turn into a cult? (03:41)How do you define “community”? (06:19)How do you define “sharing”? (08:41)What is a “throuple”? (14:47)What is Christopher’s experience regarding an open relationship? (17:56)What is a “cle...
Video: "Communal Living"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss the multitude of positives and negatives associated with communal living with the CEO and cofounder of Nourish Balance Thrive, Christopher Kelly, and they answer the following questions:What is the difference between a religion and a cult? (01:08)At what point might a commune turn into a cult? (03:41)How do you define “community”? (06:19)How do you define “sharing”? (08:41)What is a “throuple”? (14:47)What is Christopher’s experience regarding an open relationship? (17:56)What is a “cle...
Biggest Failures 036: Christopher Kelly
Patreon Exclusive. CEO and cofounder of Nourish Balance Thrive, Christopher Kelly, reveals his biggest failure and the lesson he learned from it. Watch new episodes of The Minimalists’ new video series Biggest Failures monthly on Patreon.
"Tranquility"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss our struggle to attain truth and tranquility, and they answer the following questions:Why do we always seem to be so focused on the outcome of an activity rather than simply the action of an activity? (01:02)How do we process gratitude? (02:36)How does praise only approximate the truth? (07:14)What do you consider ‘The Truth’? (10:14)Why won’t you tell people to “live their truth”? (13:04)Why does tranquility come so easily for some? (17:58)Isn’t most self-improvement just a matter of depro...
Video: "Tranquility"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss our struggle to attain truth and tranquility, and they answer the following questions:Why do we always seem to be so focused on the outcome of an activity rather than simply the action of an activity? (01:02)How do we process gratitude? (02:36)How does praise only approximate the truth? (07:14)What do you consider ‘The Truth’? (10:14)Why won’t you tell people to “live their truth”? (13:04)Why does tranquility come so easily for some? (17:58)Isn’t most self-improvement just a matter of depro...
Minimalism Today S1 E5
In the season one finale of Minimalism Today, Joshua chats with Kate Hildenbrand about her challenges regarding relationships, tribes, marriage, health, and values.
Biggest Failures 035: Ryan Nicodemus
Patreon Exclusive. Writer, podcaster, speaker, and one half of The Minimalists, Ryan Nicodemus, reveals his biggest failure and the lesson he learned from it. Watch new episodes of The Minimalists’ new video series Biggest Failures monthly on Patreon.
"Maximalism"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan talk about how, without constant vigilance, the things we own can end up owning us, and they answer the following questions:Are we still doing the right things if they can’t be held up to scrutiny? (05:23)What does minimalism illuminate? (36:06)How do I appropriately and tactfully address my in-laws giving our family things we don’t need or want? (44:24)Why do some people force their ‘love language’ on others? (49:33)What does it mean to “get to the ‘why’”? (50:46)At what point will my record a...
Video: "Maximalism"
Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan talk about how, without constant vigilance, the things we own can end up owning us, and they answer the following questions:Are we still doing the right things if they can’t be held up to scrutiny? (05:23)What does minimalism illuminate? (36:06)How do I appropriately and tactfully address my in-laws giving our family things we don’t need or want? (44:24)Why do some people force their ‘love language’ on others? (49:33)What does it mean to “get to the ‘why’”? (50:46)At what point will my record a...
Minimalism Today S1 E4
In this episode of Minimalism Today, Joshua chats with Jerusha Lang about her challenges regarding moving to a smaller home, non-minimalist roommates, aging parents, an organized hoard, the ‘why’ versus the ‘how,’ and striving for an idyllic existence.
Biggest Failures 034: Dr. Damon Korb
Patreon Exclusive. Behavioral and developmental pediatrician Dr. Damon Korb reveals his biggest failure and the lesson he learned from it. Watch new episodes of The Minimalists’ new video series Biggest Failures monthly on Patreon.
