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Madonna's Wh*res: Reclaiming Life Post Purity Culture
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/W_uDFLqSS3a_fz250svSdgTonight at 6pm EDT. Details here: https://fetlife.com/events/1879889
Inclusive Penile Anatomy for CBT
Anatomy class
The Neurobiology of Consent in Sex and Kink
Slides: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1H1SB1w5jIw5KN54JN5iV3pZ7epRld82WGFK0UBsU4Og/edit?usp=sharing
Scarification with Scalpels
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Month 2 Draft
Month 2: Self-Consent and Embodied Awareness
Bloodboarding Class
This class is for advanced sharps players and waterboarders. See Liquid Will for foundational information.
Month 1 of Draft
Day 5: Legal vs Ethical Consent ✴️This exercise has a 🧩 Consent Foundations track addition.Assignment:Write two definitions of consent:What would make consent legally valid in your jurisdiction?What would make consent ethically rich in your scenes and relationships?Journal Prompt:Where do those definitions overlap?Where do they conflict?Where do they support one another?What are the potential consequences of relying only on legal definitions of consent in relationships, instead of also considering ethical and interpersonal dimensions?...
Liquid Will
Recording of Liquid Will.
Day 4: Agency Is Not Just Saying Yes
Reflection Prompt:When was the last time you chose something because it felt aligned—not because it was expected or the easiest path?What did it feel like to make that choice?Affirmation:“I have a circle of self. I do not owe access to this space to anyone—not even when it’s expected.”Practice:Say no to something today that you’d usually do out of habit or politeness.
Day 2: Consent Is More Than a Yes
Assignment:Make a list of five reasons someone might say yes to something (sexual, kinky, an unwanted work assignment, or something else) that isn't truly consensual (e.g., saying yes to avoid conflict, because they’re scared, because they’re supposed to want it, etc.). For each one, list what would have to change for that yes to become a real yes.Practice:Next time someone else says yes to you, pause. If appropriate, ask: “Are you sure that’s a yes you want to give?”
Day 1: What Does Consent Mean to You?
Month 1: Understanding Consent in a World That Undermines It—Foundations of ConsentWeek 1: Defining Consent Beyond ComplianceWeekly Focus: Breaking down what consent is—and isn’t—through daily exercises that reveal early socialization, media messages, and internalized scripts.Adjacent Topics: Agency, capacity, coercion, compliance, enthusiasm.Cultural Context: Most of us originally learned about consent through indirect, distorted, or harmful messages. We were taught to associate silence with permission, persistence with romance, and co...
Book Announcement: 365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters
By Ember SolarisI'm excited to announce my upcoming book, "365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters". Parts and sneak peeks of the book will start being posted here for subscribers.A Yearlong Journey to Embodied, Ethical, and Everyday Consent—in and out of the sceneWhat if consent wasn't just something you negotiated before a scene—but something you lived, moment to moment, in your body, your relationships, and your community?365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters is a practical, transformative guide ...
Complimentary Ticket to Risk Aware 2.0
The link above will get you a free ticket to attend should you like to use it. The event is pay what you can otherwise.RSVP here: https://fetlife.com/events/1720926Join me for a dynamic virtual workshop designed to give kinksters the tools and perspectives needed to navigate play in the modern environment. Update your skillset and understanding with the latest frameworks rising in popularity as we increase our understanding of risks, consent, responsibility, and more. This class is for all kinksters, but especially for those who engage in highe...
My Discord and Monster Fucking Chat
Okay, I've opened a Monster Fucking chat in my own Discord since I'm not sure whether or not Kinky Kollege's is just for event attendees. https://discord.gg/xVsssv3v2xCW for blood and sharps
Self Harm/NSSI and Improving Your Relationship to Pain in Kink
Slides link:https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1YCgxOxOFtFgzO_Jw1K4-Wr5ll6iH07EvIjAbKr8hJFw/edit?usp=drive_linkHandout link:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-2gVrVkUxWRwtQCCzjqUAJ9-pkHSooyD3INCDl8b2aI/edit?usp=sharingPlease take care of yourselves and practice self care, self soothing, and emotion regulation strategies! Much love and support.
Monster Fuckers Recording
Hi Delightfuls!Here's the recording and other info from Monster Fuckers. Since it is so sexually explicit, I have not posted it on Youtube, because Youtube will strike me. Instead I'm sharing it directly from my Zoom recordings. You will need the passcode listed below to access it.Recording:https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/BnnY1mlsky94PnirR1KVaGeXEkR9VVO9k56sfBPIMoHK7IWTM0VgwJGpipAbOLkn.iz1VgGJKPITov-vRPasscode: TW38YP&kSlides:https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1khlSpIeDW0TI0J0IVucvbRK1KZbjHdbfMKw0WxOrhR8/edit?usp=sharingHandout:ht...
Emotional First Aid for Kinksters
Slides: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1ckqSfYTKOy5g8WAR7BE9HrElPTeLGsFt_GH2HzQm9lY/edit?usp=sharingLinks: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1FHhBZ9hXBA232B94fpkEAPgQjK3I551g8rnXNnTEZbo/edit?usp=sharing
